Genderlope

OnlyTrueNorthAsha, Family Life, NICU, Preemie parenting2 Comments

Once upon a time I had everything figured out, said no one—ever. Okay maybe that is a little bit harsh. We do certainly drum up some brilliant ideas though, am I right? I had decided early on that I was the ideal candidate to be a ‘boy Mommy’. I told my parents, my friends, anyone who would listen that I … Read More

Mother’s Day

OnlyTrueNorthAsha, Inspirations, NICU, Preemie parentingLeave a Comment

I wanted to write about this yesterday, but I had a hard time wrapping my head around everything I was thinking and feeling.   Mother’s Day can be a bittersweet day for some. It can be a glorious day of celebration, but it can also be a day of grief. It is a day that holds so much weight because … Read More

PTSD

OnlyTrueNorthAsha, Family Life, Featured, Friendship, NICU, Preemie parenting7 Comments

You guys, I started therapy today. I say that not to pat myself on the back, but to say that I see the light of healing at the end of a long dark tunnel. I have PTSD. The. Struggle. Is.Real. For some reason I am not embarrassed anymore. Women talk so often about how it takes 9 months to be … Read More

Awake O Sleeper

OnlyTrueNorthAsha, Insights, Inspirations, NICULeave a Comment

Oh my friends, the truth is: I’m tired. Something about this last week of gray days and my ever graying hair has kept me feeling a bit low. This whole up all night/up all day scenario is hard! At the same time though, I can think back instantly to two separate times when my babies were in the NICU and … Read More

A NICU reflection

OnlyTrueNorthAsha, NICU, Preemie parenting7 Comments

My daughter turns 4 at the the end of the month. That means I have been a mom for 4 years. I’ve watched her grow for 4 whole years. It also means it’s been 4 years since my time in the NICU. With baby #2 on the way, I’m obviously beyond excited, but there is also an added layer. It’s … Read More

Exchanges

OnlyTrueNorthAsha, NICU, Uncategorized1 Comment

overcome  past participle of o·ver·come(Verb) Verb Succeed in dealing with (a problem or difficulty). Defeat (an opponent); prevail: “they overcame the guards”; “we shall overcome”. Synonyms overpower – vanquish – conquer – defeat – surmount – beat     Sometimes I get so overwhelmed by my experience in the NICU. It was over 2 years ago now, and how is it that … Read More

What NOT to say to a preemie parent

OnlyTrueNorthAsha, NICU, Preemie parenting18 Comments

When I first sat down to write this post, I planned to write a concise list of things you should NOT say to the parents of a preemie. That would certainly be a heated topic and one that I can greatly relate to, but seriously…it isn’t about what shouldn’t be said. People are people and they will always say awkward … Read More