This past weekend my sweet hubby was out on the Olympic Peninsula backpacking with some buddies. I encouraged him to go because I love his wild heart. He really needed some time away, and I am a firm believer in plunging straight into adventure.
That being said, I was a single mother through the weekend. Though my glimpse into single mommy-hood was small, my adoration for these sweet Mamas grew off the charts. I have been blessed with two wonderful mommy friends who have been doing the whole entire parenting gig solo. We aren’t talking part-time parents with husbands away for work—I’m talking all day, everyday, with their little ones. They don’t have a double income, they don’t have the emotional support that comes with being married, they don’t even have a reluctant husband they can hand their baby to, just so they can jump in the shower for 10 minutes. These Mommies are true blue single mother warriors. Now, I can’t say that they do it TOTALLY alone, because where would we be without family, friendship, and more importantly the Lord. They say it takes a village to raise a child and I couldn’t agree more…but in honor of all the single Mommies out there, here is what I have to say:
You are beautiful, the world should stop and stare! I don’t know why he left. Maybe he was sick or selfish or even just a plain moron, but either way—you are radiant my friend! And if you left him, to take care of your precious-beautiful-gift, your treasure, your baby—then you are as wise as you are beautiful. I’m so sorry that you have been raising your little one alone. I know you’re strong and I know that you work so hard, but it’s okay to cry at night sometimes and it’s okay that some days you just long for more. It’s okay that some days seem heavy, lonely, too long.
I don’t know exactly what God has planned for your life, but I do know that whenever Mr. Right does come along, He better be ready! He better be ready to admire you and embrace you and praise you, because you are fearfully and wonderfully made and you have created someone else who is too. He better be a hold-the-door-open, kiss-just-because, do-anything-for-you, kind of man. I totally believe he is out there because God loves relationship and He is a total romantic. I believe that He is writing your story. Some parts of your story might be so dark and I can totally understand why you might want to rush through those chapters, but don’t give up hope . I completely believe in fairy-tales, even the ones with rocky starts.
So today as you go about your normal day, remember there will be extraordinary days ahead. Just know how very loved and admired you are. You are brave. Keeping your baby was such a BRAVE thing to do! You are inspiring, you encourage other women that we really can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens us. You are lovely, a treasure that deserves to be honored, cherished, and adored. I tip my hat to you! I raise my glass to you! However you want to put it, I just wish I could give you a big hug! I don’t know the end of your story, but I know the end of our story and it’s beautiful and it’s mad with wild-love that only Jesus can deliver. So no matter what happens—He is always by your side.