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overcome  past participle of o·ver·come(Verb)


  1. Succeed in dealing with (a problem or difficulty).
  2. Defeat (an opponent); prevail: “they overcame the guards”; “we shall overcome”.

overpower – vanquish – conquer – defeat – surmount – beat



Sometimes I get so overwhelmed by my experience in the NICU. It was over 2 years ago now, and how is it that I still have to push back painful memories that somehow creep into my everyday life. It doesn’t make sense. I often find myself having a conversation with someone, while the movie reel of Alana’s early journey plays in my head at the same time. I smile, nod, and talk, but inside I’m unpacking old feelings. I used to be intimidated by this exchange inside my head, but now it’s more surprising—than crippling. I think we all have exchanges like this going on under the surface, but for each of us, the situation is different. We all have something to overcome. It might be overcoming an obvious fear or it might be as subtle as unraveling feelings within, but I have good news.


We can stop fighting to be more normal, more put together, more perfect, and just rest. It’s okay to make exchanges inside. Exchanges are just changes in costume and though changing can be uncomfortable, painful and annoying, it means we are moving forward. It means we aren’t stuck, it means we are overcomers.



If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.

-Gail Sheehy

Change, like sunshine, can be a friend or a foe, a blessing or a curse, a dawn or a dusk.

-William Arthur Ward


All I have is this, we have overcome, because we are loved. Love changes everything. So as you change today, remember you are not alone. Remember for everything there is a season and a time. Be gracious with each other. Be kind. It’s not easy doing life. 

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One Comment on ““Exchanges”

  1. Shannon Mather

    Awesome, beautiful words that I needed to wrap around my heart today!!! Thank you, my precious Ashie, you are truly God’s gift to this world!!!!

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